Question: If you find yourself in a life situation that makes you really tired or even makes you sick at times, and you can’t leave it right away, how can you deal with it in a positive way? I have heard you say that everything happens to us is for good. Please help me to understand how a difficult situation can be good for me.
Answer: You have to change. You cannot just say, “I believe everything that happens to me is for good.” No! It is good, but can you see the good? You cannot just lie to yourself: “It’s good.” That’s not good. Every day, every night, you work late, you are unhappy . . . it’s for good. Your boyfriend gives you a hard time . . . it’s for good. It’s not for good! You might want to quit your job; you might want to punch your boyfriend’s face! How can it be for good? Unless you truly understand what’s happening.
What is good? What does this really mean? The good is you have to change. It’s not just good. Good is how can I change so “life situations” won’t bother me anymore. Your boss will understand you; now, he wants to give you a hard time. You start to think, “Maybe when I change he wouldn’t give me a hard time, he will help me.” See, that’s more positive instead of just “Oh yeah, he gives me a hard time instead of helping me.” Can you change for your own benefit, for good? Good means you wouldn’t get angry, good means you are so happy, good is he is going to help you. That’s called “good.” You walk out of the office, he helps you carry something; you go there, he opens the door. That’s good. Can you do that? You have to really look at it this way and not just say an empty line that it’s good. It’s absolutely, a hundred percent understanding what is called good.
